Stepping Outside Mainstream Thought
A couple of years ago, somebody important to me told me that one day I would do something that would require me to step outside the mainstream. She went on to say that I might even be seen as a heretic, because anyone who steps outside the boundaries of what the majority says is the right way is going to stand out and get good and bad attention. I had no idea at the time what she was talking about (and I was freaked out!), or what could be possible in my future. But, I finally understood what she meant the other day and Food Rebel is the start of it. I don’t consider myself to be a heretic in any sense of the word, but I certainly think that my approach to working with clients who are struggling with disordered eating is uncommon and can flip people’s world upside down, and fast. So Welcome!
Food Rebel means that you are willing to consider different and unique perspectives on managing your relationship with food and having the courage, “as if” a warrior, to think outside what you have learned that keeps you stuck. It means reexamining why all the diets you’ve been on don’t work, better assessing how the media portrays what we should eat and how we should look and its unrealistic expectations at times, and your own beliefs that may be hurting you. Yes…our beliefs can help us but they can also hurt us. I will be presenting new possibilities to you, but I promise, we will go slow in order to get there fast.
I task you with sitting back for a moment and asking yourself why I used the word “managing” up above. Why didn’t I say fix, cure, or absence of? One of the most important things I learned from one of my mentors was that the problems people come into therapy with are not about being cured, or you know things are changed when you never experience them again. He said it is about teaching people how to better manage things and manage them more effectively and with skill. What a relief! I had anxiety the other day and didn’t think I was a crazy person for having it, but that I needed to manage it. Plus, we have to eat everyday and multiple times a day, so there ain’t no cure for that but death. Just like all of your other relationships, your relationship with food has to be managed too.
All diets present the idea of a fix, no? Once you start this “new” diet you will drop 10 pounds, so why do you gain it back and most times with more pounds. We will discuss those questions along the way, but as for now, begin shifting and opening yourself up to the idea of managing your relationship with food. There is a real sense of respect thinking about having a relationship with food, yes?